documenTORI: My Last Morning as a Pregnant Woman
Now that we were officially on our “Baby-Cation”, we were getting closer and closer to welcoming Finn into our family. The morning of Finn’s arrival (we had a scheduled C-section, so we knew exactly when we’d meet our littlest one) I had a million thoughts and feelings running through my head. While I was super excited to welcome our newest babe into the family, I was totally caught off-guard by how sad I was that this would be my last morning EVER as a pregnant woman.
With Liam & Stella, I knew after each pregnancy that Dean and I wanted to have more kids. Although I was sad when those pregnancies ended (It may be weird, but I LOVE being pregnant), I knew that we’d eventually have more kids. When we had Hattie, we thought that we probably wanted one more babe, if we were lucky enough to be blessed with one, so I held out hope that I would get to wear my bump proud one more time.
But with Finn, both Dean and I knew that this was probably it for us in the baby-making department. Since Finn’s pregnancy was so difficult and dangerous, we knew that if we could make it through this one and make it to the finish line with a happy and healthy baby, that our family would be complete. So there was a sense of sadness when I woke up on the morning of Finn’s big arrival, because I knew that this was the last time that I would ever have one of my sweet babes in my belly.
Now don’t get me wrong… I was SO excited to meet baby, and was so proud that we had made it to the finish line together… I just wanted to keep him in my belly a little longer!
How did you feel when your last pregnancy was over? Were you sad that this was the last time you’d be a pregger? Or did you feel relieved?
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Completely agree!! That's exactly how I felt at the end of my pregnancy w the fourth! Knowing this was my last, last time to feel a baby moving inside, all of my pregnancies were great. I was very emotional w my last. Now that she just turned one, I was emotional at her first bday party knowing this is the last time I'm using a number one candle and sure it will b the same every year for her. I'm going to miss bf, having someone depend on u solely! I totally get how u feel, knowing that this part of my life is over:( btw...congrats to dean, yay, what a great cook, and what a lucky lady to have a husband that is so heads on and loves to cook!,,, u r truly blessed tori! -
You're such an awesome Mom! Your kids are lucky to have you. Thanks for sharing that with us! -
Tori, you are an inspiration to many people. I never had the experience of having a child full-term. I often wonder if I would have had a boy or a girl. I'm sure there is a reason I never got to have children of my own; I just don't know right now what that is. By watching you through your pregnancies, I get to "live" the feelings and emotions that a new mother would go through. I am so glad you are so comfortable with your family to share these precious moments. I can only imagine what you went through with your last precious baby boy, Finn. The bond you will have with him is going to be so strong! Please keep sharing your life with us. You may be the only link to these experiences some people get. I wish you and your beautiful family many, many blessings. -
I totally get you! I like you met my husband in 2005 and we had our first baby, a girl in 2007 and I as soon as she was born I thought, I can't wait to this again. I loved being pregnant! I just had my second baby 7 months ago today and I am still a little sad that this is my last baby as I am 39 years old and had a tough pregnancy so my husband and I decided two is enough. Perhaps if I were younger I would consider having one more but for now the memories of me and my big baby belly will have to do. -
My hubby and I had our last 4 years ago. Though my heart hurts because I really want another baby. No it's not because my last child is older. I've always wanted a big family and i Really want my daughter to have a sister to grow up with and have a special bond like my sister and I do. I currently have two boys and one girl. My hubby and I decided to have a vasectomy right after my youngest was born. Of coarse I thought I was done! I jus popped a 8 lb baby two weeks before! I have regretted the decision ever since And we really want another but can't come up with the money for a reversal. I have been trying to save but just can't :( make sure that when you decide you're done that YOU'RE really done. Because now our chances of having another child is slim to none unless some miracle happens. And yes... I do pray that 1% chance of the vasectomy failing comes true. -
Ifelt the same way when my husband was like "this is going to be our last one"i loved my last to pregnancy I still want atleast two more.
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I totally get what you are saying, i was said after each, i love being pregnant also and so after each one i was sad to see it end but also excited to meet the new little person in my life. I hope we can have 1 more, we have 3 our latest is 8 months. But well see whats in store for us. You havea very lovely family!
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I understand totally. It took a long time and thousands of dollars for us to get pregnant with our first and only child. I always thought there would be another child. We tried, but nothing happened. I just wish I could have had one more. I am glad you have had all the precious time to enjoy your pregnancies and your babies! You are truly blessed!
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I totally get it. I actually really have a hard time being pregnant and on one hand I don't ever want to do it again (I'm on #4 now), but on the other hand I so much LOVE being so close to my child and LOVE LOVE LOVE feeling my baby move in my womb. I dread birth, but I can't bear the thought of never having a "babymoon" again. Those 1st hours/days/weeks as a new mama are the absolute greatest and I treasure every moment, trying to soak it all in and carve it to memory. I'll be so sad when this phase of my life passes! -
Tori, I totally get what your saying, even though I personally don't like being pregnant, my mother on the other hand, became very sad when my sister and I had to come out. She felt amazing, and she will always say she also loved showing it off too, and wearing the maternity clothes. I wish you the best in your new child xoxoxoox. -
I so did not feel this way because I didn't like being pregnant. For me the stress was the not knowing how my child was doing on the inside. When the baby is in front of you, you can diagnose and possibly save him/her but inside...you have NO IDEA what is going on and that made me nervous! It is wonderful that you were honest about how you were feeling because either way, having a child is very emotional and all sides of the story should be shared. -
That was a precious video. It expresses such a deep love for your unborn child.. the warmth and security it has from you carrying it is hard to express, but, you did it so well. You have been your child's first home for 9 months. It's such a secure feeling that baby and you have, during that time. It is just such a special time and bonding. I, also, loved being pregnant and was sad when I knew it would be the last baby I would carry. I felt your emotions so much. God Bless.. You are really special (and your whole family).
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I totally "get it" why you were feeling sad. After my last baby, I had to have an emergency hysterectomy and it was devastating! I had 6 beautiful children and somehow I knew Andrew was my last but I didn't really feel the sadness until I had to have the surgery and then it really hit me hard. It was the end of having babies and my life as I knew it. People around me thought I was nuts because I already had 6 beautiful children and they just couldn't understand why I felt the way I did.
It's interesting, being I am much older than you and my children are already grown up but I relate so much to you and how you are as a mommy. You have totally immersed yourself in the joy of your husband and children as I did. My kids (and grandlings) are still my life today and I just love you for who you are and your commitment to your family. I hope they all realize through the years just what a blessing you are to them! -
I totally agree with you Tori! I LOVED being pregnant! It is most beautiful and precious experience that I ever had.
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Rachael Justin, that confirms the sadness. I love hearing all of your mothering stories. I'm definitely going to be the old lady who forever rocks the babies in the church nursery. -
I was ok with not having more up until the day of my husbands vasectomy i cried and the nurse came in and asked me if i was ok and I said i know 4 kids is enough i don't know why i am so sad and she said it is a final feeling that is the best i can explain it.I will never be pregnant again i will never hold a newborn of my own i will never anticipate the birth and the breastfeeding and bonding its a final feeling :'( -
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I'm proud of y'all for knowing when enough is enough! *hugs* I know it's hard but enjoy it all while you can and then you'll get to live through it again when you have grandkids ;) -
I have 3 wonderful children, 2 granddaughters and 2 of my children are having babies this Summer (the oldest was also but miscarried last week). When I was pg with my youngest it was a difficult pregnancy, I spent over a week in hospital 1st trimester due to hyperemesis and was put on maternity leave early. Found out she had problems with her urinary tract and would need several surgeries, the 1st @ 3mos. Her delivery was the hardest & fastest, she was 10 days overdue and due to her problems they didn't want her to stay longer. The induction was just to fast 0-10 in 2.5 hrs. also had problems with hemorrhaging. I had a Tubal the next day and the following day she flunked 2 of 3 heart tests and was almost airlifted to Children's Hosp. She did have appt already for specialist we were driving (3 hrs) the next day. I had the WORST POST PARTUM DEPRESSION for months!! I was devastated she was my last. I would cry out of no where. But I always wanted more babies. Now I'm blessed bring a Mom & Grandma! -
I love you Tori.Thank you for your blok.I cried a few days leading up to the birth of my first.
I loved being pregnet. I felt alone after having my son Jocob.
like you Tori. So I totally understanded. i am so glad there is someone out that that feels the same way becouse I thought i had to be the only mom who felt alone after giving birth even though they are surronded by the family.I would like to be 1 more time pregnet. -
Wow!What I would say ...Ladies may surprise you ,but for me actually the best part of all process was the birth... Not being pregnant , but " the magic of the birth a human being" and when I see a joy and happiness On my husband,s face and little tiny baby .My all 4 babies did respond differently to the World welcoming:))))One was very peaceful and some were wuuuuaaaa .kind of " mad" :)))) -
I cried for a week leading up to the birth of my first because I knew it would be over and I loved being pregnant. I didn't think anyone ever knew what I meant when I would say I felt alone after after having my son Dean, but I did feel lonely after giving birth and I missed him being in my tummy even though I loved being able to hold him I still had that lonely feeling from him not being just mine and just with me 24/7. So I totally understand and I am so glad that there is someone out there that feels the same way because I thought I had to be the only mom who felt alone after giving birth, even though they are surrounded by family and have a new baby, I still missed the baby in my tummy lol. -
I have 3 wonderful sons,however my last pregnancy was very difficult resulting in my baby being born at 28 weeks at 2.3lbs and from going through bed rest and the difficulties through the pregnancy my husband and I decided this would be our last one:( I was so sad about not being able to have more babies but now that my baby is 14 months now our family feels complete!!1
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I have 3 children and enjoyed my pregnancies. However, by my third, I was sure I was done. I was ready to explore a professional career and was tired of being fat and trying to lose the "baby weight" over and over again. I was tired. My husband travelled a lot, and we lived away from family. That meant I was the sole parent a lot of times. Babies are gifts and a blessing. When you think of how many people struggle to have one child, you can't help but feel humbled and grateful. I thank God daily for my children.
Tori, you are a role model for so many of us. I love watching you love and nurture your family. I am in awe of how kind hearted you are. We often see the other side of people born in privilege. You are amazing. Keep spreading your love, I for one am grateful to be a witness. . -
Ever since the day I was born I always wanted (and expected) to be a Mum - or to be allowed to be a Mum... It was all I wanted to do in life. After much struggle with guys over the years and trying to find "the one" a miracle happened I was pregnant!!!!! It was the BEST MOMENT OF MY LIFE. When I saw my guy that evening and told him, he got in the car and drove off. When I saw him three days later my guy told me to get rid of it. There is no part of my soul that would ever permit that to ever happen!!!! The day my little Brayden was born was the BEST DAY OF MY LIFE. As time went on, the father had his eye on another, and thus walked out on Mum and Bub. As life has it I fell in love with another and he gave me two beautiful babes - a boy and a girl!!! But he wasn't really into kids, and thus went off with another gal that he had his eye on. Luckily I don't look back on the negatives, all I can remember is the wonderful feeling of purchasing a pregnancy test (2 or 3 just to be sure, then one spare in case I can't believe my eyes...) and after peeing on the stick - the way my stomach jumps with joy when it turns out positive. Telling my family - especially my Mum we were in heaven. Then when reality sets in and you start to feel excited, and the dreaded nausea sets in, but you push through it all knowing it doesnt last forever. Then feeling the bump getting bigger each month. WOW. The wondering what it is - boy or girl, pink or blue, yellow to be safe!!!!! I had three babies (I would had loved 4 - it feels balanced 4... but their fathers lived in another world - one that was not one bit interested in kids. The youngest is now 9 and the craving dissipates a little - it does get better. Anyway I have three wonderful children that are the focus of my life and I could not ask for more. Love you Tori, I hear you x x x x
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