A Love Letter to My Soul Mate



I’ve known you my whole life. But only in my heart. I would dream of you for so long. So many represented you. My dad. Every Ken doll I ever played with. Every prince in every Disney cartoon. The lead character in every John Hughes film. Not one guy I ever dated. And, then you became a reality. It took me 32 years to find you. But only after I found me could I find you. Because you stood for the other half of me. You allowed me to be me. You’ve helped me achieve my dreams. I reach further knowing if I fall you’ll be there to catch me. You’ve given me the greatest gift I can ever know. The gift of motherhood.

The three lives we’ve created together were made out of pure love. We will raise them with pure love. And, one day we will smile at each other knowingly as they each find their own soul mate. Thank you my love for the brilliant life we’ve created together. Thank you for making all my dreams come true.

I love you…
Tori xoxo

  • Sissy Wagner

    OMG loved your letter. brought me to tears ( Happy ones) ain’t love wonderful. I wish everyone could feel that kind of love. I do everytime I look at my honey Neil it’s been 38 plus years. thank you for sharing yourself and your family with us..

  • Terry Macri

    That is just beautiful. You brought tears to my eyes

  • Liudmila Taslanova

    perfect love letter…love is in the air!

  • Holli Lund

    This is absolutely beautiful…. they two of you are an inspiration to us all!

  • Tara Pakosta

    Very beautiful Tori! You guys are great together, so very blessed! can’t wait until the new season of your show! Thanks for sharing such a beautiful letter!


  • Desiree Jacobs

    Tori- this is the sweetest letter and exactly the way every little girl grows up thinking about her soul mate. That just made my morning brighter! All the best to you and Dean!

  • JarieLyn Robbins

    That is such a beautiful sentiment. A well written, heartfelt love letter that is so inspiring to us all. Thanks for sharing.

  • Lindsay Del Priore

    The love you guys have for each other is just beauitful, and what a great example for your children. Happy Birthday Dean. Beautiful letter Tori.

  • Crystal Garcia

    That was such a beautiful letter Tori. Thank you so much for sharing it! Happy Birthday Dean!

  • Darren Martin

    Love how “inn love” the two of you are! Couldn’t be happier for you. God bless and Happy birthday, Dean!

  • Pauline ER

    So beautiful Tori, and straight from the heart. Got some tears in my eyes. You both are very lucky to have eachother and your love and happiness shows <3 Happy Birthday Dean!

    xoxo Pauline

  • Vivian Garcia

    Thank you for sharing. So happy you have each other and so happy that you share your wonderful life with us all.

    Take good care of each other. We love you Tori!!!

    Happy Birthday Dean.

  • Christine Nafziger


    That was so incredibly moving…it brought me to tears! God Bless you all!


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    I must say you know how to write a letter.

    Happy birthday Dean.

  • Kerri Symington

    Your words to Dean are so beautiful! It is clear how much you honestly love each other :) Such fun watching you and your family on Oxygen, you are so real and it touches so many non celebrities out there!!!! Happy birthday Dean !

  • Toni Daughtry

    Tori your feelings that you have pinned to Dean are so beautiful! The love you have for each other is just as you say Pure Love!! Most in life don’t find it and some don’t know it when it is right in front of them! Youv’e had your “Once Up On A Time”, now it is time for your your “Happily Ever After”! A true Love sTori. You are both Amazing!! Love and all the blessing life can bring, Toni

    Have a wonderful Birthday Dean!

  • Lemon Meringue

    Happy Birthday and many more to you Dean! That you may live a long, healthy, happy and glorious life together with your lovely wife and all your beautiful children.

    And Tori: that is a beautiful letter full of love and gratitude, thanks for sharing!


    Happy Birthday, Dean and congratulations to you both on the birth of your new little daughter, Hattie. I am so very happy for you both. You have such a beautiful relationship and it is so very obvious how much you love each other and how hard you both work at your marriage and being parents. Can’t wait for the new season to start. I LOVE watching you guys and all of your friends are a very happy bonus for us all. Can’t wait to see the Guncle’s new addition. Much Love and Happiness to you all!

  • Jeanne Tutt

    *sniffles* that was so sweet! Happy B-day Dean!

  • Annie

    Hi Dean happy Birthday, I hope you have a great day with your lovely family, Tori that was lovely, enjoy your day

  • Martha Arevalo

    Hello Tori, Just wanted to wish Dean a very Happy Birthday, today is my birthday as well. It’s neat to find out other people who share the same birthday as you. Also I wanted to Congratulate you both on the birth of your beautiful little daughter, Hattie. I can’t wait for the new season of your show to start, looking forward to seeing you all again.

  • Kelly Wills

    Absolutely beautiful. Happy birthday to Dean!

  • Danae Amato

    Happy Birthday to one half of the lovingest, sweetest, most down to earth couple I have had the pleasure of seeing. I wish you love, long life, happiness and peace today and every day.

  • Jessica Schraud

    May you Keep on Loving each other to the moon and back xo

    Hearts and Birthday Cake to you and your Birthday boy xo


    What a beautiful letter Tori, thank you for sharing it with us and i hope you, Dean & your little family have a wonderful day! smiley-smile.gif

  • doreen porzio

    Tori, that was such a beautiful love letter! Happy Birthday to you Dean! Hope you had a wonderful family day all together! Your a great Dad! Hattie is so beautiful! I am so happy for you and all of your family, as you well know! Something made me go on the computer tonight! I guess this is why!… Been meaning to tell you the article was fantastic in the magazine! Nice pic of Hattie! You can really see her! She is gorgeous, just perfect! Her pink room is also beautiful! Love it! So happy you changed it! I love the wallpaper too! It reminds me of Stella’s old room!.. What else can I say other then, I’m dying to see you all! Can’t believe It’s finally here!..Season Premiere! I haven’t been on twtr or your site due to health problems with my daugher & mom…. Please cherish all of your happy times with Dean & your family! I know you Will! You have so much Love for each other & your children! It’s just wonderful! Your an amazing mother!! Your both great Parents!! I just love you guys…xoxo God Bless you All smiley-smile.gif

  • Kelly De Wolf

    Thats LOVE! Only a few are so lucky that they found that kind of love.

    Happy Birthday Dean.

  • bridgett swindle

    happy birthday dean!!!!I hope you have a beautiful day with your family cause they are so great i would like to meet all of you one day of possible.I love your show so much.It’s great when you have a great family like you do. LOVE YOU GUYS

  • Kristin Eriksen

    What a beautiful letter! Happy birthday to Dean!

    Hugs and smiley-kiss.gif

  • Tara-Lee Bush

    Aww, I got goosebumps! Happy Birthday Dean!

  • Jackie C

    You are so lucky to have found that type of love. :)

  • Tricia Ashlock

    i love how you two love each other, its amazing. i strive for that in my marriage. despite all my husband and i have been through in our 1st year of marriage, we’ve pulled through. i couldnt live my life without him. and im sure he feels the same about me. my husband just isnt as open about his feelings as id like him to be. smiley-smile.gif

  • Malky Lazarnick

    tori what a special lovely letter it is so beautiful you really know how to express yourself i can’t wait to have a soul mate like you found one in dean you are an inspiration to all it is an honor to read your letter and happy birthday to dean and congrats on your babygirl hattie she is precious!! i am one of your most loyal fans i have seen 90210 and i have all 3 of your books you are the best enjoy your beautiful family

  • Kelly Libengood

    Wow.. such a lovely family. We’ve enjoyed watching your family grow throughout the years. It’s nice to see a reality documented bunch of series work and flourish together.. so many of us only get pictures and some random home movies but you both have this wonderful and unique opportunity to see it in length and detail all the while taking people who genuinely back you up as a couple, a family, and celebrity on your journey with you, allowing us to see the good, the bad, and all that’s in between.

    Tori, you’re a standout in Hollywood.. there aren’t many like you that have such integrity and even though you’re in the spotlight, you continue to maintain yourself with dignity, honesty, integrity, and with ladylike charm and grace. So nice to see from the mainstream celebs nowdays.

    Dean, fortunately, I have a husband much like you who is so very actively involved with his children and his wife’s lives. How amazing and rare it is (so sad to say) and you too remain a dedicated and true gentleman (also unlike so many celebs to date).

    Weather every storm, hang on to one another, and remember mistakes are just that.. and know that even the worst moments will pass and be a fleeting memory. Those babies of your are incredibly fortunate, and what a lovely story they have of parents who stayed in the bright lights without tarnishing them with scandel and divorce, who love them to pieces and allow eachother the grace to learn from eachother at all times.

    God bless you all!

  • First nameIsabel Last nameDiefenbach

    How beautiful Tori!

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  • Diva Andrea Nyhus

    Aaaaww…this maked me cry….this is LOVE and the way it`s suppose to be. Have a great day and take care of each othersmiley-laughing.gif

  • Chelcie Coons

    you and dean are so in love and its so inspiring. not many people know what love is these days and you two are like the definition of it.

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  • Rikki Renee

    I love how ya’ll show your love for eachother. I, also, strtive for that ini my relationship. The way Dean reacted when you gave him the pregnancy test for Valentines Day, I wish I would have gotten a reactin even similar to that, it was absolutely adorable! :)

  • Pixie Dust

    Made me misty eyed. Congrats.

  • Marla Murasko

    You all are amazing. Tori you are such an inspiration to me for many reasons. Thanks for all you do for others.

  • Lizelle Du Toit

    You guys are so perfect together & not perfect the fairy tale way, but the real life everyday, warts & all way. You make me want to be a better wife, thanks T!

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  • Marita S Homstvedt

    Aaw…how sweet!

  • Tami Hass

    Tori, that’s so amazingly sweet and turely beautiful. I’d love to hear what dean’s thoughts were to your letter. I love the line that he gave you the most “precious gift of motherhood”. It turely is the most amazing thing we get to do as women.

  • Jill Jones Grotnes

    Your relationship is so fun to watch because it is so normal. I can’t get enough and often get teary watching your show. I can’t see you start the water works without joining you. You two inspire me.

  • Ashley Struve

    Classic, timeless, pure, beautiful, inspiring. May the two of you enjoy many years to come.

  • Jennifer Thompson

    Just beautiful. Thanks for sharing that with us.

  • teetee

    You are so gifted with your writing Tori..truly beautiful! So happy for your family..God Bless you all. <3

  • Ida Pita

    Your transparency moves my heart! You are an inspiring person filled with SO MUCH to outpour onto beautiful! I admire your life and heart and I pray only blessings would come your way! :)

  • Janie Alexander

    You and Dean are such an amazing couple. Both of you are so beautiful and you have made beautiful kids together. I too met my soulmate almost ten years ago. He has taught me so much about life and who I am. I truly do not know how I would live my life without him in it. We are not able to have children together because after my 3rd and last child I had to have an emergency hysterectomy. But he has one girl and I have two girls and one boy they are all almost grown, my youngest girl just turning 15 Sept. 13th. He also has a bad heart his heart only functions at 39%. That meaning his heart is only 39% alive. Knowing this breaks my heart because he could go at anytime. When he goes, I truly will go crazy and not know what to do. He is my lifeline. Anyway I have gone on way too long. But as far as my love for him it just gets stronger every day.

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